by Terrye Tebbetts
It is very common to see posts on breast augmentation pre-op forums about women who are considering breast implants, but don’t either know how to tell their significant other they want bigger breasts, or have told them and can’t get them on board.
Every situation is different and every man is different with different motives behind what they say and do. But put yourself in your husband or boyfriend’s position for a minute. If you say, “Honey, do you think I should get breasts are big enough?”, what is he supposed to say???? He is damned if he does and damned if he doesn’t the very minute you posed the question!! Poor thing!
If he says, “No – they are awful – how soon can you get in to the breast implant surgeons‘ office?”, or “Finally – let’s get DD’s! Oh wait, do they cost more the bigger they are?” he is doomed. If he says, “Oh baby, you know I love you the way you are!”, that’s not the right answer either!!
And trust me, every man on Earth thinks he can spot a breast implant a mile away – they are experts in this stuff, after all. And they have heard every horror story from their buddies – how awful it was when so and so’s wife was recovering and how much it hurt and how she whined and complained etc. So guys, in general, think they know about breast implants and boob jobs just as many women think they know all about it as they have heard enough through the grapevine to be experts too.
And, the guys also are very protective of you. They get that this is a surgery you don’t have to have and they worry about you and the risks associated with breast augmentation. Remember, what your house is like if you get the flu? When Momma is sick or down for the count, the whole household suffers…..right? They worry about you and your safety and want to protect their family.
My recommendation to you to help get your significant other on board is – - rather than go to them with that double sided question that could explode into WWIII, go to him with education and knowledge – go to him with a copy of The Best Breast 2! Tell him you have tried everything you can do to eat right, diet, exercise and take care of yourself and yet, there is one part of your body you can’t change on your own and that it bothers you and that you think you would feel more confident and complete if you could change your breast size. Ask him to read the book with you or at least let you tell him about what you have learned from The Best Breast 2. Ask him to come to your patient education consult and to your surgeon consult so that he can ask questions and be involved. When you come at any situation or controversy with a foundation of knowledge, it is so much easier to discuss and deal with fears and concerns….because you know!
In Dr. Tebbetts’ practice, we LOVE it when the husbands and boyfriends are involved in the process. Having someone to bounce questions off of, or to help you communicate with us, is priceless. And when they can see and understand The High Five Measurement System and 24 Hour Recovery – knowing that their job on the day of surgery will simply be to drive you and take you to dinner…..they absolutely feel better about you getting breast implants – they get a sense of the safety and they get to be involved and help you.
Take them a copy of the book – and explore all of your breast implant and augmentation options together, then you can both make knowledgeable decisions about a tricky and touchy subject as a TEAM!
About the Author: Terrye Tebbetts is one of the most knowledgeable women in the world about breast implants, with 27 years of experience educating patients and 11 years as a patient herself. For more information about breast implants or breast augmentation Dallas surgeons, please visit www.thebestbreast.com.